How To Connect Effective Communication Is The Key To A Good Relationship
How important is effective communication in the parent-child relationship?
A good relationship is built on effective communication. Have you ever ended a relationship because of misunderstandings caused by poor communication? Or when you're talking to your children or loved ones and find yourself in rational conflict or despair.
Having conflicts throughout the day because of communication is not the way we want it to be.
In today’s episode, I will share the concept of nonviolent communication and how we can apply this in our everyday lives to maintain and perhaps improve our relationships with anyone.
Effective Communication
Communication is a fundamental building block of daily life in society. If we want to function in our relationships, we must learn how to communicate effectively. Unfortunately, we have a tendency to use language that interrupts the flow of communication and, in some cases, harms us and the person with whom we are speaking. It occurs when our words build walls instead of bridges.
Yelling, holding grudges, keeping secrets, blaming, giving silent treatment, using ultimatums or threats, labeling someone bad instead of the behavior, and causing harm are all examples of poor family communication. Which we must avoid, and it is our responsibility as parents to serve as role models for our children.
Ways To Communicate Effectively
According to the findings of a study conducted at the University of Colorado, the culture that labels people as good or bad reinforces the idea that bad people deserve punishment, which contributes to violent incidents.
Choose appropriate words to use especially for your kids. Now I am using a tool that is a powerful method to avoid bad communication. It’s called “Nonviolent Communication.”
Nonviolent Communication helps us communicate our feelings clearly and it does by these three things.
Encouraging us to observe objectively.
Helps us identify our needs.
Helps us communicate compassionately.
How Do Nonviolent Communication Work?
There are certain scenarios or events that trigger us to be frustrated when we are feeling certain things. We tend to use words that would satisfy our feelings, which of course are hurtful or bad words. These create a gap in any relationship even with our child. This tool, nonviolent communication, is very effective to avoid misunderstandings due to bad communication.
First, you have to observe the situation. Next, try to sense how you're feeling when you observe the situation. If it does make you angry or frustrated, you can identify your feelings and write down what you want to happen and find the right words to use. Then you can communicate with compassion. Try using this tool and you will be amazed with the result.