Hey Mom, You Are Good Enough

Last weekend, we celebrated Mother’s Day. And all over social media, moms from different parts of the world posted about their celebrations, reflections, joy, and even grief for the moms who lost a child.

In this episode, I would like to discuss how being enough is all we need as a person, a parent, and a mother. We all are good enough, we just need to tap into it.

We Are All Good Enough

We have always been good enough.  We are born good enough. Because we cannot be a good enough mom or a good enough parent until we feel we are a good enough person already. I learned that from Dr. Becky Kennedy, who focuses on being good enough inside.

Take this as a perspective, that you are a child with big feelings, big struggles, and big desires, and probably never got the type of support you needed to separate your behaviors from your feelings or emotions.

And so your good enoughness was just never spotted on. We can still change that. Through inner work, reparenting, and personal development, you can be good enough. I've been practicing this and I want to share that one reminder that I have been trying to master and learn from the book, The Untethered Soul by Michael Alan Singer.

It's Just A Thought, It Doesn't Define Me

Sometimes, we feel like the bad guy, the bad mom. But let me tell you, that is just a thought and you can change that. It doesn't define who you are. And to change it, we can rewire the belief system. 

And so if today you are doubting your goodness and you have lots of bad mom thoughts, it could mean growing up, your struggles were likely met with blame, shame, or criticism instead of connection, instead of looking at it as a curiosity.  We can change. That blame and criticism can lead you to feel not good enough.

You Can Change That Into Connection

We can change it into a connection. Mistakes are how we learn, and being a mom is no exception. What can we do? we can always ask for support, ask for help, and make it. 

And if you find yourself comparing yourself to other moms, remember that that is not your real voice. You may have acquired it from the society we live in, but you have control over it and you can change it. 

You are the one to blame for your struggles, shame, and mistakes. And you also are the one who can change it to connect and change your thoughts to knowing you are good enough.

Reflect And Change

You are good enough.  Reflect and change. Mistakes are part of the journey, mistakes are how we learn. And these mistakes will teach us to avoid doing them in the future, instead, they become motivations to change. 

 Let's reflect and change. Be willing to grow. You are brave, you are a good mom. You are enough. Be willing to try new things and be willing to accept mistakes. Apologize for your mistakes, repair your mistakes and move on. Change your thoughts, and know that you are a good enough mom.

Resources Mentioned:

The Untethered Soul by Michael Alan Singer

Dr. Becky Kennedy - Founder of Good Inside